April 20, 2008

Hopeless Conditions

I see and hear a lot of stories of people who are living in what seems to them as a hopeless situation. People from all over the country tune in to listen to Dave Ramsey because they are looking for hope when it comes to their money situation. They want a way out of the mess they are in.

Whether the financial situation they are in is self imposed or a result of some awful catastrophe, there is nothing easy about their despair. I say all of this because I found a quote from Christopher Reeve (Superman) in his book Still Me. The book was written after his horse riding accident that severed his spine and left him paralyzed from his shoulders to his toes. Despite his situation, he and his wife Dana were still able to find hope and offer it to others. Here is what he had to say.

"When a catastrophe happens it's easy to feel so sorry for yourself that you can't even see anybody around you. But the way out is through your relationships. The way out of that misery or obsession is to focus more on what your little boy needs or what your teenagers need or what other people around you need. It's very hard to do, and often you have to force yourself. But that is the answer to the dilemma of being frozen - at least it's the answer I found."
How would life be different for us all if we decided to focus on the well being of others, rather than throwing a pity party for ourselves?

5 comments:

FieldingHurst said...

Wow, loving that quote. Great post, nice blog.

Smitty said...

The #1 cure for depression? Helping others. It takes the focus off you and your situation, and gives you those warm-fuzzies you get when you know you've done something good.

Who would've guessed that serving other people and making them happy is the best way to make YOU happy?

Alex said...

I love Superman. Thanks for sharing.

johnstonteam said...

good stuff.

Smitty: I thing I've learned to be cautious of when suggesting helping others is:

1) Many become dependent on this "help". You've got to be real cautious with that.

2) I'm meeting more and more "helpers" that are helping for their own reasons instead of the benevelent reasons for helping. That's sad.

Ben said...

@johnstonteam: That's a good point. That's why it's important to help others where they actually need help, and not where they think they need help. An example being the old Chinese proverb about giving a man a fish or teaching him how to fish.

I also think a key word in the quote is "relationships". Helping people you intend on developing some kind of relationship with makes a big difference when compared to just helping someone you don't really care about.